It’s so crazy to think my little guy has been one for a few weeks now. The statement it goes by fast that everyone says to you when you first have a baby is so true! Those first few weeks recovering from a C section with lots of restrictions, and the long sleepless nights made me think yeah right?!! In hindsight looking back it absolutely flew by.
I’m so thankful for my family. My parents, amazing in laws, and my brother. They came and cleaned, cooked, did laundry, took out the trash, and helped me and Bryant fall into a good rhythm of parenthood. Our friends brought meals, coffee, and gifts and loved on our baby.
Once Bryant had to go back to work, and I was still recovering my Mom came every day. I can not thank her enough for everything she did for me. She brought me my favorite drinks, treats, meals, and continually encouraged me and told me how good of a Mom I was. Even on the days I was being hard on myself.
I learned a lot of lessons my first year of being a Mom.
1. I thought I knew what tired was before, boy was I wrong!
2. Stop being so hard on myself. Everything won’t always get done, and that’s ok!
3. Don’t be afraid to ask for help
4. It’s a lot different and harder than I thought it would be.
5. I do things I never thought I would do. Sometimes everything you plan isn’t what works best for your baby.
6. I never knew how much I could instantly fall in love with someone until I met my little boy. It’s more than I ever dreamed.
7. It was worth the wait. As hard as it was I would do it all over again.
8. Cherish every moment. Be in the moment. Take the extra cuddles and the extra time.
9. Breastfeeding is the hardest full time job I’ve ever had. We made it 12 months! If it’s not for you, that’s ok! Fed is best!
10. Take time for date nights, and time for yourself as well! Its vital!
Words of wisdom from a few other new Moms:
•Listen to professional advice but ultimately, you are the one who knows your child and your situation, so always keep that at the forefront of your mind when having an issue.
•Life’s too short Every morning our little one is another day older. Cherish each moment even the bad ones!
•The house work can wait. Enjoy the cuddles and lazy days. I don’t want to be that Mom who wished she held her baby longer or more often. Now she’s always on the go so when I get the cuddles I cherish them even more!
•That parenting is challenging and exhausting. •Being a parent 24/7 is not like being a nanny.
Being a SAHM is not the dream I thought it would be.
•Take and ask for help.
•Self care is the most important part of being a mom.
•There is no right way
•Remind myself to stop feeling guilty about everything!
•It’s okay for it to not be what you expected it was going to be
•Not to judge other moms because I’m far from perfect.
•Sleep when baby sleeps. Period.
•Postpartum depression is real and it’s awful. Don’t be afraid to get help
•Emotionally and mentally we’re a lot stronger than we think we are. So don’t doubt yourself. Momming is hard but it’s doable and ultimately worth it.
•Sleep is for the weak!
•Remember to do stuff for you! It’s so easy to get lost in the cycle of everything that goes along with taking care of a baby. Don’t forget to give yourself some moments where you remind yourself that you’re not just this mom creature, you’re still an actual person too.
•Best lesson is enjoying time with my boy, some chores can be left undone. He’ll only be little once, snuggles, giggles and playtime are more important than doing the dishes!
•Babies and children spell love T I M E. Give them your time and you’ve given them everything they’ll ever need. My daughter is 4 and expecting my 2nd on Saturday!
•Trust your gut. You can function off 1 hour of sleep. Accept help. Don’t lose yourself in parenthood.
•Every baby is different.
•Everyone will have an opinion. Do your research and do what YOU feel is best for YOUR child.
Looking forward to starting our your story matters series next week. These stories I am going to be sharing are truly inspiring!!
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